Yoli is faced with an agonizing decision: to help her sister die in a dignified way, or deny Elf her wish and wait for what Yoli knows is inevitable. Having already experienced her father’s depression and death, Yoli is all too familiar with the darkness consuming her sister, but despite her anger, she refuses to pass judgment on Elf, even when the latter makes an unimaginable request. Behind the facade, however, lies a fathomless and inconsolable sadness, similar to that which gripped the sisters’ father and pushed him to end his life. She is a famous and respected concert pianist, with a beautiful home and an upcoming tour. Elf’s life, by contrast, is seemingly ideal. Yoli is dealing with an impending divorce, a faltering career, a tendency toward promiscuity, and the lingering self-loathing brought on by her Mennonite upbringing. This is not unexpected, given that the author herself has been touched by suicide (Toews’s father and sister both took their own lives), and that she has written several books involving characters in the Mennonite community struggling with mental illness.Īll My Puny Sorrows focuses on Yoli, a writer who travels from Toronto to the Winnipeg bedside of her older sister, Elf, who has attempted, not for the first time, to kill herself. The choice to die and the shame associated with suicide are at the thematic heart of Miriam Toews’s stunning sixth novel.

All my puny sorrows book summary